A few weeks ago, I was spending time with one of my mentors and we talked about marriage. In this conversation, we talked about feeling emotional distance from our spouses, and he made two statements I will never forget. First, he said, “Marriage is a physical sport,” and he addressed the need for physical touch and intimacy. Most men would agree that this is vital for a healthy marriage, and we all want more of it.
Second, he said, “Marriage is an emotional sport,” and he addressed the importance of understanding each other’s emotions. It creates the kind of emotional safety in marriage that leads to more intimacy. Most men are not as quick to address it and would rather avoid emotions if possible. The challenge for all of us is that emotions are real, we both have them, and they can cause destruction in our marriage if we let them. Here are 3 emotional threats to your marriage.