I came home from work a few months ago and our house was a train wreck. Without thinking, I said, “What have you been doing all day?” This blew up into a huge argument. You see, my wife had already thought in her mind that day, “I’m not a good wife, I don’t do enough around the house, and I can’t balance the kids, school, and work.” My statement reinforced lies she was already struggling with that I didn’t know were there.
We are not mind readers and it is not up to us to fix the lies our wives are believing. However, if we’re not careful, we can reinforce the lies that women believe about themselves. Here are 3 ways you reinforce the lies your wife believes.
1. You try to fix her.
If your wife is wound up in a lie in her mind, it may take a moment to unwind. The temptation is to analyze the situation and offer solutions. But when we try to fix our wives, we reinforce one of the lies some women believe: that there’s something wrong with who they are. Our words and frustration are personal attacks on her instead of on the lie.
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